I always seem to have the funniest and yet profoundly moving conversations with my teenage daughter while stuck in traffic in our nation’s capitol. Yesterday was no exception. After a difficult conversation with a series of family members (all on speaker phone), my daughter turned to me and said, “Mom, I think your legacy is chocolate chip cookies.”
I’ll spare you the details of the family conversation, but suffice it to say legacy, death, and dying were discussed. Not necessarily the happiest of topics, but topics that needed discussing nonetheless.
Leave it to my daughter to come up with a one-liner that not only made me laugh but also made me think. You see, here at Artifcts we talk a lot about ‘stuff,’ legacy, family history, and stories. And although I have Artifcted my chocolate chip cookie recipe, I don’t think I ever would have lumped it into the category of my “legacy.”
How Do We Define Legacy?
Legacy is a complicated word. For some legacy may mean a name on a building, a patented invention, or other grandiose, broadly recognized achievements. For others, it may be the small moments, memorable stories, or favorite “isms” that made that person unique.
Regardless of ‘what’ legacy is, all of us are busy creating, living, and building our legacies every single day. Each action we take, each ‘thing’ we make, all becomes part of our collective journey through life.
So, although the Oxford dictionary defines legacy as either, “the amount of money or property left to someone in a will,” or “the long-lasting impact of particular events, actions, etc. that took place in the past, or of a person’s life,” we at Artifcts think “legacy” is so much more. It’s the stories, memories, and small moments that others will remember long after we are gone. It’s the things that made us laugh and maybe even the things that made us cry. It may be our habits, traditions, and favorite things.
We’ve tried to capture the essence of all things legacy in our Legacy Checklist and know there is bound to be a thing or two that we missed. Why? Because we are all different, and we all lead different lives. One legacy is not like any other legacy.
How Will You Define and Preserve Your Legacy?
Seeing as October is Family History Month, and this week is National Estate Planning Week, we want to ask how will you not only define but also preserve and share your legacy? Take a moment this week to ponder this question and then take action. There is no time like the present to preserve and share the stories, moments, and yes, ‘stuff’ that make you, you!
Will valuable assets and charitable donations be part of your legacy?
If the answer is yes, ensure those assets are documented, and your directives are recorded in your estate plan or will. Our Artifcts “In the Future Field” can help you denote what happens next to those assets, creating a roadmap for your family or executor, including if the asset is to be donated or bequeathed.
Do you find yourself thinking, “I have no children, but I have all this ‘stuff.’ I don’t think anyone will want it, and I don’t think anyone cares about my stories.”
So often we undervalue our own life experiences. But we have to think more broadly: They are personal history, family history, and even world history. We’re members of communities and are valued. It’s also true that by linking a story with an item, you can increase its value, such that if you were to sell-off your estate one day, your stories may mean you can boost the ultimate value of the estate you might leave to a charitable organization in your community!
Remember the “softer side” of your legacy, all those stories, memories, and small moments.
Give yourself a goal of creating one Artifct a week that highlights some aspect of you that you want others to know about. Like me, it could be a favorite recipe that you’re famous for, or perhaps its tied to a memorable trip with an equally memorable souvenir, or a family heirloom with the family history you intend to pass down to the next generation. Sometimes those small moments mean just as much if not more than the big ‘stuff.’
Part of my legacy is indeed those chocolate chip cookies, as my daughter pointed out. The ones I bake before every cross-country meet, the ones the older kids hope for when coming home from college, and the ones I first baked (and delivered!) to my husband’s office when we were dating. The original recipe was my mother’s, although I have altered it over time to include salted butter and chocolate chunks rather than chocolate chips.
Had you asked me, I would have said they were my mother’s cookies, and part of her legacy; she did teach me to bake them after all, seated on our old butcher block countertop. My daughter, however, has a different viewpoint. And isn’t that the whole point about legacy? Our legacy is what we will one day leave behind for others to remember about us.
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This October, go BEYOND the balance sheet of life and capture the legacy that is you and the stories of your life. Grab that favorite item from your desk, your kitchen table, your living room shelf, and tell its story as only you can, because you lived it!
Happy Artifcting!
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