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Letting Go of Sentimental Items

March 13, 2024

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Last fall Chris Stapleton appeared in a Sunday morning interview on NBC with Willie Geist. In a moment reflecting on the “how” of his music making, Chris pointed to a chair he’s used as he’s recorded all of his albums and said, “It’s home.”

We get sentimental about objects for that “home” feeling among other reasons, making it difficult to let go sometimes. These are the artifacts of our lives! Today, we’re sharing our green-yellow-red light approach to reevaluating your sentimental collections.

But, Reader, beware! If you are waiting for us to say, “Just take a picture of the item you want to remember,” this is not the article for you.

In this digital age, we accumulate photos as fast as dishes in the kitchen waiting to be washed. Each photo you take and let slip 100s and 1000s back in your camera roll, even if filed into a folder, is a missed opportunity. You could have captured what’s so meaningful about it while the details were fresh. You could have shared it with someone to connect over a shared memory. So, please, take the photo, we agree, but in the next moment or same day, Artifct that. Okay, now on with today’s article!

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Letting Go Can Be Really Hard. Full stop.

When it comes to letting go of objects of sentimental value, some of us manage better than others. Some of us do not even consider ourselves sentimental and regularly “trim the fat.” The rest of us need all the help we can get.

Our reasons and motivations for letting go of items vary:

- - You’re downsizing and truly can’t keep it all.
  - You’re mindful that you have a lot of stuff and do not want to burden your family someday with figuring out what to do with it all.
  - You’re going through a decluttering process, because it’s beginning to feel like your walls are closing in on you. Psst ... A real or pretend household move can be a very effective motivator to declutter – less to pack and less to pay to move, too!

As we set out to learn existing strategies for letting go of sentimental items, we canvassed the literature, decluttering blogs and videos, and more than a dozen books on the subjects. While the examples and stories differed, along with the viewpoints (scientific, minimalist, Christian, you name it!), it felt like there wasn’t much separating one approach from another. We distilled our learnings into a green-yellow-red light process for you to consider, “What do I want to do with this ‘thing?’”

First, Why DO People Keep Sentimental Items?

The answer to this question is especially important for all of us with someone in our life who we think is particularly sentimental, and we just can’t relate. Some of the most common reasons we found for people keeping items of emotional value that you should keep in mind include:

- - The item was important to someone else who you loved or respected.
  - It makes you happy to have it, usually because of a memory it evokes.
  - You’ve had it a long time and it would feel strange to get rid of it. This is related to a concept called the “endowment effect.” If we own it, it has more value.
  - It’s the “last” of something or otherwise rare, or at least you think it is. This could also lead to a slippery slope of expectation that it has monetary value, too, today or “someday.”
  - Emotional security – knowing it’s there makes you feel better.
  - Just because. Yes, that’s it. Let’s call this, “It’s in the eye of the beholder.”

Letting Go of Sentimental Items: Green-Yellow-Red Light

If you have spent time with an elementary school aged child during the last decade, you may have heard of this green-yellow-red approach to teaching kids about the spectrum of foods and their value to our bodies. Green foods are “go foods,” and you should enjoy them every day as you wish because they are so good for you. Yellow foods are “whoa foods,” and should be enjoyed in moderation. Red foods are those for which you should stop before putting in your mouth and consider a better option. They are not good for your body.

The beauty of this framework is its dual simplicity and flexibility. Today we’re applying a green-yellow-red light framework to help you to parse through your belongings and just maybe let go of a few.

It’s important to emphasize that systems like these must be adapted to personal starting points and circumstances. Hoarding disorders, grief, and other situations may require different approaches, ranging from professional support to grace and space.

Green items: Keep, enjoy, display. Clearly this stuff matters! This might be the stuff you re-clutter with after you clear out the rest.

Yellow items: Reconsider. Maybe there’s a better home or opportunity to repurpose some of these items.

Red items: Halt: declutter! Red light items often have an overwhelming number of items in the same category or have had no use or value to you for years, making them ripe for thinning out over time. Remember, it does not have to be all at once!

Here are illustrative examples from each category to help you prioritize as you let go of sentimental items.

GREEN LIGHT – Give yourself a pass.

It absolutely adds value to your life, brings you joy or peace, or some other benefit. You don’t have to justify this feeling. (Remember our recent ARTIcles story, “We all deserve a Purple Bin!”) You’ll know it reflexively when you look at the item. This is a category of items that may have already been pared back, for example, if you kept only a few items that belonged to your spouse who passed.

You use or display & enjoy it and have no need to replace or change.

It is financially valuable, too. Do not pinch pennies here. It’s valuable and you are going to keep it because it’s doing no harm, and you would only get rid of it if you sold it. (Check out our ARTIcles story, From Rare Art to Family Heirlooms: Tips From a Master as You Consider Selling Your 'Stuff.') When you Artifct it, be sure to attach the receipt, appraisal, and or certificate of authenticity in the ‘Documentation’ section and as many details as possible, potentially including how and where you got it (provenance), dimensions, weight, and any signatures or maker’s mark(s). Bonus: Use Artifcts’ “What’s it worth?” button if you are curious about the item’s current market valuation.

If a family vote were taken, the majority would say, "Keep!” We have this broken pair of Rudolph glasses. I wanted to buy a new pair and was strongly vetoed. These glasses have been with us a long time, and my family found a new way to use them in their broken state.

YELLOW LIGHT – It might be time to go.

Books. You might be surprised to reread “favorites” of yours only to discover they are favorites no longer. Your tastes shift. Books are a good category of objects to pause on and really consider whether you need each one. I’ll never get rid of my copy of Rooftops of Tehran. Even if I don’t love it one day, I remember the impact it had on me when I first read it. It stays. But recently I did reread some “critically acclaimed” books I remember enjoying and have moved with me several times, but they didn’t make the cut this time. I donated them.

Battletested and/or antique kitchenware. How much of Grandma’s old cookware do you need to keep to remember what an amazing cook she was or how much you loved to cook with her or the smell of her bread in the oven? And if you are actually using it, consider if it is still safe to use. Can you reduce what you’ve kept to a few representative pieces? Maybe even retire some to become fun décor.

Special textiles. Table linens, children's clothing and costumes, loved blankets, this is another area that’s easy to accumulate and squish just a bit more into that shelf or bin. And being practical, too, it’s easier to quickly try and give it a pass. If it’s all getting used, well, then that makes sense, unless of course you’re running out of space. Plus, linens tend to age without you truly SEEING the signs of age (stains, yellowing, fraying edges …). Use season changes to reconsider and maybe even “treat” yourself to something new to replace some you are letting go of.

RED LIGHT – Some of these items need to go.

Boxes and boxes of items from a loved one who has passed. It’s taking up space somewhere, and to what end? If you're ready, pick out only those items that truly resonate with you. Consider who else could want it and benefit from the rest or open it up, video it, and send to family to give them a chance to make a claim.

Relics of a former career, student or professional. Do you have college notebooks and textbooks from decades ago. Why? What about awards and mementos? Others are very unlikely to really understand what if any of this matters either if you haven’t told them the stories (or better yet, Artifcted them.) I was really proud of an econometric study I did in graduate school in large part because of the note the professor wrote on the final copy. I don’t know compelled me to keep the physical copy for decades, but I can tell you now that it’s Artifcted, I finally recycled it.

Kid clutter. This is the artwork, awards, presents and so much more that multiplies like bunny rabbits inside closets, under beds, and in what was once a previously (momentarily?) organized and functional system of bins. It is absolutely fair game to put this category into a regular decluttering rotation with your child(ren). Why? It is especially vulnerable to you forgetting what it was and why you and your kids kept it anyway because of the sheer volume. Be careful in this category not to go overboard. Consider our learnings shared in, “Before You Thin Out That Stuffed Animal Collection, Consider What Scientists Have to Say.”

A Parting Story and Message to Consider

When our co-founder Ellen Goodwin (@egoody) traveled to Arizona to Artifct with her 97-year-old great aunt, what stood out were the things her aunt had chosen to keep as she came to the end of her lifetime and the stories they told. Having downsized to so very little, chief among the items her great aunt wanted Ellen to see were a pair of goggles, a brochure, and a testing piece she used to become certified to weld airplanes during WWII. Check out #MurielsStories.

What matters to us all, what TRULY matters, shifts over time. Do not feel pressured to move too fast to declutter and/or downsize unless life circumstances give you no real choice in the matter. Even then, please remember to take a moment to smell the roses and remember the value of what you have and, sometimes, the emotional and practical (less to dust!) value of letting go.

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Every Room Has a Story: Bathroom Edition

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Welcome to the third in our series of the stories of your living spaces: Your bathroom. The first room we visited was the living room. We went for gold, tackling what we think is the most difficult space first. You likely spend a lot of time there as do guests to your home, upping the pressure.

Then we stepped into the delightful chaos of kids' rooms. So many "core memories"—wink and a nod to all of you "Inside Out" fans—standing between you and a decluttered space. And we all know how much easier it is to find 'stuff' and how much more likely 'stuff' is to get used if it's not an energy zapping, overwhelming chaotic situation.

Today we’re moving on to the bathroom, which in turn we think is the simplest space to tackle. And our guest from this spring's Evenings with Artifcts, Zoë Kim of Raising Simple, agrees. The bathroom is the room most likely to have the least number of sentimental objects within, making it simpler to declutter. It’s also simpler to declutter because much of what you keep in there has an expiration date or is naturally used up!

Watch the full Evenings with Artifcts event with Zoë on YouTube.

Stories & Your Bathroom

Hear us out. We know that strictly speaking, bathrooms are about utility first and possibly refuge second, as in the cliche, “Found crying in the bathroom.” We also signal “refuge” when we install the finest shower heads and bathtubs our imaginations have invented to help us relax. Relaxation is surely a top reason for decorators to focus on creating calm in the bathroom.

If you are seeking calm and relaxation, is it only about color schemes and relaxation potions? Let's talk about the overlooked “why” of the ‘stuff’ in your loo: Why we have the items we do, what they mean to us, why we keep them, and ultimately for some things, what we want others to know about them.

1. Don’t be shocked, knickknacks live in the bathroom, too. Perfume bottles that are essentially empty, hair clips from an evening event a decade ago, and thingamabobbers with a singular use that you never actually took up (sort of like exercise equipment), such as facial rollers, hair irons, and miracle machines and patches that solve headaches and body aches.

Sneaky sentimentality can be in play here, too. Did that scent remind you of a special time or person? Did you wear that hair clip with a particular dress on a particular evening? Will you use these again? Are these and items like them taking up an increasingly large volume of space you cannot afford? Does anyone know why these items are special to you? Snap a pic, take a selfie-style video, and Artifct that. Place it all in a box. Come back to it in 30 days. Can you let it go?

Our co-founder Ellen surprised herself when she realized that of course she has a sentimental item stashed away in her bathroom, she sees it daily: A now 24-year-old makeup brush from Face Stockholm.

long, skinny makeup brush

“I was studying abroad in Sweden, and we loved going to Stockholm on weekends. Everything was sort of out-of-reach expensive for college students, so we mostly window shopped. We were in a make up shop, a lot like today’s Sephora empire, and I settled on buying just the brush. Crazy to think it’s still there; I see it daily, and it makes me smile."

2. Walls. They don’t have to be just for towels and cabinets. Do you include art on yours, humidity tolerant art, that is? It’s funny how a glimpse of something positive, art you love, a photo of a group of friends or scene from your childhood home, can help you take down that heart rate a notch.

Lavez les mains in blue font

You could easily flip that on its head, too. A half-bath is a great place for a splash of humor on a wall in the form of art or a nicely arrayed collection. Distraction plus humor, why not?

All that said, if every time you look at that ‘stuff’ on the wall you feel annoyed – it's no longer your style, it’s fraying or warping, it was a hand-me-down you felt compelled to hang somewhere – take it down! Don’t let these feelings haunt you. If you truly feel guilty, Artifct That. It will do you good.

3. Function for the win. Above all else, obviously a bathroom is about function. If you have not made room for spare toilet paper, a drying rack big enough and tough enough for your day-to-day towels, swimsuits or whatever else you don’t want to get musty, tackle it first. Take the stress out for you and others that need to use that room.

True story: A friend came to visit. The new washcloths laid out were a beautiful plush white like in a hotel. The friend was stressed out by the towels and avoided using them for fear of staining them with makeup. Think before you buy. Comfort first!

4. Nature belongs here, too. The simplest way to bring in a bit of the feng sui advised natural components is to wrap string at the end of a bundle of eucalyptus and hang it from your showerhead. A pop of color and what many find to be a relaxing scent too. If the story you’ve created to encompass this space is relaxation, go for the eucalyptus.

What stories will you uncover? Send them in to us at Editor@Artifcts.com or join the conversation on Instagram (@TheArtiLife) or Facebook (@Artifcts). We'd be delighted to hear from you!

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Check out other "Every Room Has a Story" ARTIcles by Artifcts:

Living Room

Kid's Room

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July 24, 2024

DECLUTTERING & ORGANIZING

Have Passport. Willing to Travel.

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With summer travel on our minds, we had some fun recently looking up basic US passport facts available from the U.S. Department of State, Bureau of Consular Affairs, which is the issuing authority for U.S. passports:

- - There are approximately 160 million active US passports, including US territories. There’s some double counting in there for those with a passport book and card, but you get a sense of scale when we have a total population of roughly 340 million.
  - A state-by-state look at new passports issued as a percentage of each state’s population (est. July 2023) really got our attention. Top of the pile: Washington D.C., New Jersey, Massachusetts, Hawaii, and New York. States with the most subdued interest in new passports: West Virginia, Mississippi, Arkansas, Alabama, and Kentucky.
  - Despite all the changes that COVID brought to travel, valid dates for those passports remain unchanged. A child’s passport is still good for 5 years, an adult’s for 10. Makes sense, too. Children under 16 years of age surely change a lot more, on average, than we adults do. And, let’s face it, this probably makes many adults happy if they prefer a younger them in their official passport photo.

Why do we care about passports at Artifcts? Clearly we’re not alone based on the numbers! And talking about the first trip you took on a new passport is a lot more fun than talking about the weather or the latest highway construction project! How old were you? Where did you go? HOW did it go? Scratch that, ask about a first or most recent trip on any passport. Think how different you and your life were 10 years ago and what was guiding you to pick one travel destination over another.

Your passport stamps and visas can unlock so many memories and stories.

Our co-founder Ellen got her first passport to study abroad in Sweden during her junior year of undergraduate studies. Contrast that to her most recent passport which she first used to travel to Israel to speak on a conference panel about technology innovation and human legacy.

In contrast, our other co-founder, Heather, got her first passport to travel to France to study abroad her sophomore year in high school. Her most recent passport stamp? Well, she’s currently mid-trip in the Bahamas, accompanying her husband on his work trip and wrangling brownouts and bugs as she works remote. Oh the stories (and the Artifcts)!

Artifct That Passport!

We have a robust “How to Artifct {fill in the blank}” series that we’ve published over the years. We highly recommend putting it to the test as you Artifct.

Today we’re expanding that series with our best tips to preserve your passports and the memories they hold. Why would you Artifct your passport? To remember and re-live and share all those great and not-so-great travel memories—come on, who has had PERFECT travel and no horror stories to share?

Artifcting passports also makes it easy to pull up trip details to repeat those travels down the road or share with a friend who plans to travel to the same destination. No losing that information in Google Docs, email, or hardcopy only.

See, Artifcts are both everything you can wish for in capturing your stories and memories and incredibly practical, too!

Here's your recipe for Artifcting passports:

1. Start each Artifct with a photo of a stamp and/or visa in your passport. It gets you the location and the date in one go!

2. Add videos and photo:

- - Picture of you in the country.
  - Video you took out exploring.
  - Photos of mementos you bought or collected (art, ceramics, t-shirts, pins and spoons, shells and rocks…).
  - Framed picture on your wall from a trip.

3. Don’t forget to add “Documentation” to your Artifct:

- - Travel itinerary (flights, hotels, reservations, museums etc.)
  - Original photo file in case you want to reprint it in the future
  - Receipts, certificates of authenticity, and/or appraisals for any valuable travel mementos you purchase and may need to insure, add to your will, or re-sell one day

4. Now add the story. Use 5 words or 5,000, it’s up to you. No story burden here. And you can choose to add the story in writing or by using voice-to-text or directly recording in the Artifcts app.

Want the easy-bake recipe instead?

If what you really want is to tell your favorite stories from the places you’ve been or simply keep track, you can create an Artifct featuring photos of pages of stamps (instead of a single stamp at a time). Then in the Artifct “Description or story,” list out the locations pictured in the stamps and the stories for each. Done!

passport open to show stamps and a visa

Each stamp has a story. Bonus! The dates make it simple to ensure your Artifct shows up in the right place in your timeline.

Connecting & Sharing Your Artifcted Travel Stories and Mementos

If you’re ready to step beyond the passport only, remember these great Artifcts features and services can help you along the way.

QR CODES

For most travel mementos, you can print or use an Artifcts QR code sticker to link the item, whether the expired passport itself or a ceramic vase you bought in a shop in Italy, with the Artifct. Now anyone who comes across it can scan to get the story.

An Artifcts QR code sticker on a music box from Switzerland

It's easy to link your Artifct to a QR code sticker - scan and up pops the story!

USE @ IN THE ARTIFCT STORY

You can also inter-link your Artifcted stories by typing @ into the story of an Artifct and choosing another related Artifct. That way, all your Italy stories can link together!

The story in this Artifct includes @ links to people and other Artifcts! Click the image to view the Artifct.

PUBLISH A CUSTOM BOOK WITH US

You may also want to share your stories in a good old fashion book. We know, books can take a lot of work to upload all the photos, lay them out, pick the fonts, fit the text, and so on. Not at Artifcts! Enjoy the memories, we can help with the rest.

Simply purchase a book with our partner Akin, select all the Artifcts you want to publish to a book, and click share to privately send the Artifcts to Akin to layout in your book. You’ll receive a proof before the books are ordered and arrive on yours or a loved one’s doorstep. We have tips to enhance your Artifcts for publication available here, too.

An Artifct published in a book with its story and a QR code to access all the other photos and videos

Once you create your Artifcts, select any to create a custom book with our partner Akin.

We hope you're inspired to get Artifcting those travel moments hidden within your passport. Happy July to you all!

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July 17, 2024

TRAVEL & MUSEUMS

MassChallenge Invites Artifcts Into Early-Stage Accelerator

We interrupt your normal Wednesday ARTIcles story to offer you greetings from Boston, Massachusetts. The Artifcts co-founders flew to Boston yesterday to take part in a multi-day launch of the MassChallenge Early-Stage Accelerator program, one of the world’s top accelerator programs. What’s that? Read on!

As a self-funded, patented startup poised to become a household name—because, let’s face it, who doesn’t have stuff or stories—the team at Artifcts wants to ensure that we’re delivering to you not just the best product to capture the stories, history, and value of all you collect, accumulate, and inherit in life, but that we do so always with an eye toward the best in tech, the best in how we operate (lean!), and more.

MassChallenge is a global network for innovators working to solve massive challenges. MassChallenge connects startups, experts, corporations, and communities to grow and transform businesses and does not take any equity from companies who participate. According to Mass Challenge, the early-stage accelerator has facilitated a remarkable $9B+ in funding for its cohorts.

Of the 1,300+ companies to apply, Artifcts was selected along with approximately 120 others to work together over the next 3 months with industry mentors and partners to challenge how we operate, means to improve, and of course how to grow. While you won’t see any immediate change at Artifcts as we work through the program, we hope that we’ll come out stronger than ever and with new ideas for how to better connect with you and help you to enjoy all that Artifcts offers.

Opening session of MassChallenge, Boston, July 9

Andrew Bialecki, CEO & Founder of Klaviyo, shares his startup journey during the opening event.

In the meantime, please, continue to Artifct. Share Artifcts with friends and family. We may not have the marketing budget of a goliath corporation, but we have amazing community members who want to see Artifcts succeed. We’re so grateful. And, if you have ideas of what you’d like to see next at Artifcts, or even suggestions for what we could do to make your experience better, let us know! We love and take feedback from our ARTI community to heart.

Wish us luck as we roll up our sleeves and dive into the MassChallenge world!

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