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Take Another Look at Cemeteries and the Stories Untold They Hold

Ellen Goodwin, Artifcts
October 31, 2023

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What’s with all the interest in cemeteries? Is cemetery tourism really a thing? Isn’t it bad mojo to tromp around where you don’t belong? And why are cemeteries so interesting as to inspire memes about hanging out with dead people and bumper stickers like, “I brake for graveyards?” Genealogists must have seriously healthy senses of humor about their research sources and habits. 

Not being a genealogist or historian, I’ve never quite understood the passion some people have for taking road trips to cemeteries where family are buried, never mind stopping at random ones you may come across.

I can think of three excuses, aka reasons, most of us visit cemeteries: a funeral ceremony, a history lesson, and morbid curiosity. 

A Place of Ceremony and Reflection 

My grandmother died when I was four. My memory of the day is hazy. I remember better the feeling of watching her casket exit the church and thinking how sad it was I wouldn’t see her again. Many people visit cemeteries to remember their loved ones and to take the space they need for conversation, prayer, and thought, honoring those whom they’ve lost.

The power of reflection can make folks do funny things, too. My mother once told me about visiting her parents’ gravesite with one of her siblings. Her normally rather stoic sibling proceeded to lie on the ground next to their parents and ask, “How do I look?” How can you not laugh, even if in a cemetery, about that?

What's the difference between cemetery and graveyard

A Place of History and Community 

I remember much better the solemn awe of walking on a guided tour through Arlington National Cemetery when I visited Washington D.C. on a school field trip. The sheer scale of it and all that it implied registered even with my 14-year-old self. I took a few pictures, now scratchy because the negatives sat for decades in bins. Take my advice: Digitize sooner than later, but first read about my experience!

On that visit, there was something unique that I captured – the tiny green temporary placard that marked the grave of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis. She had passed away only weeks before our trip, and her resting place beside President John F. Kennedy was a stop along our tour.

Final resting place of JFK and temporary grave marker and resting place of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

 
 
Clearly should have gotten a closer shot. But the shadows tell you many people were crowding in for a pic.

Simple Curiosity 

I visited a local graveyard once in high school: St. Patrick’s Church cemetery in Askeaton, Wisconsin. We were curious which were the oldest of the crumbling tombstones. Obviously, there was no choice but for the oldest to date to the 1850s when the church was founded by Irish immigrants, but we knew nothing of that history. We were teenagers!

Nowadays, a variety of genealogical, historical, and lineage societies, among others, help preserve and document cemeteries. Websites even exist specifically for collective recording of grave markers for others to use to unlock family mysteries and reconstruct community histories. (More on that below!)

Curious, even a little, about visiting a cemetery or graveyard? Wondering what use a graveyard visit may be to you? Read on!

Unlocking Family Mysteries and Continuing Family Storylines at Cemeteries 

For the curious, grave markers provide an abundance of opportunity to play detective. Whether measured in days or decades, that dash between birth year and death year represents a life lived.

The grave markers themselves convey a lot about a person:

      • Where is the marker – What city? A public cemetery? A churchyard? What faith and denomination? Where within the space, relegated to a dark corner or a prime position? 
      • What type of marker is it – The material, style, and size can provide clues about wealth and status and also culture. 
      • What is on the marker – name, date of birth, professional titles, next of kin, cause of death … so much potential. And don't forget to look on the back if it's double sided! Sometimes you’ll find adornments, such as pictures and symbols to puzzle out, too. Our friends over at Legacy Tree Genealogists recently published an article about tombstone symbols. Check it out >
      • Who is nearby – It may be that you discover relatives nearby that you had not yet discovered or are shocked are directly next to the person whose marker you’re interested in.  

One Arti Community member shared a fabulous historical tale with us about the hero who she found buried next to her grandfather. Click the image to listen in! 

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Planning a Visit to a Cemetery

Cemetery tourism like my trip to Arlington National Cemetery aside, if you’re planning a personal visit, we’ve collected tips to make your visit more productive and pleasant.

“Google” first. 

All we mean is do your online research first so you can validate as much information as possible about the site and avoid wasting time on your journey or the day you visit. Popular starting points are BillionGraves (find in AppStore and Google Play), Find a Grave, which also offers a cemetery search (find in AppStore), and Cemetary Census, covering a handful of states.

Reach out to local genealogy and historical societies as well as public libraries, too. You’ll meet hobbyists and professionals alike who delight in helping break through family mysteries and brick walls. 

Call ahead. 

Please, call! You need to confirm the public access hours, details about any temporary or permanent off-limits areas, whether they permit rubbings, and if they have historical records on site you can browse, too. (Bring gloves for safe handling!) While you are at it, ask if they offer maps and guided tours. Some even have mobile apps. 

Bring a small kit. 

A soft paintbrush to gently brush dirt off a marker, a grass clipper to reveal hidden areas, and a blanket or pad to crouch down onto for more comfortable access should suffice. Plus rubbing supplies, if permitted.

Think about the time of day. 

Be mindful of lighting during the season and time of day you plan to visit. Age and material can make it challenging to read, never mind photograph, a marker even if you plan to use photo editing software later. An umbrella can help with glares, and of course protect you and your work from the elements. 

Be careful what you ask for. 

We all know history can be ugly. And if it’s family history you’re tracking down, deeply personal, too. Do you really want the answers? Are you prepared to learn Great Grandma did not get buried next to Great Grandpa, but someone else lies between them? What about discovering a child no one ever mentioned? A false or conflicting date of birth or death? And do others in your family want to know what you find? Tread carefully.

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What Should You Do With Your Old Wedding Dress? Preserve the Memories Before They Fade

For many families, a wedding dress is far more than fabric, lace, and beads. It's a symbol of one of life's most meaningful milestones—a day filled with love, hope, family traditions, and unforgettable memories. 

Today, a growing trend has breathed new life into wedding dresses tucked away in closets and preservation boxes: daughters trying on their mothers' wedding gowns. The big reveal has become a cherished moment all its own. Sometimes the dress fits perfectly. Sometimes it sparks laughter as fashion trends from decades past make an appearance. And sometimes it inspires a daughter to wear the gown herself, whether exactly as it was or with a modern update. 

These emotional moments remind us that a wedding dress carries much more than its stitches and seams. It carries stories. But after the photos are taken, the reveal is over, and perhaps even the next wedding has come and gone, a question remains: What should you do with your old wedding dress? 

The Challenge of Preserving a Wedding Dress 

Many people carefully store their wedding dresses for years, believing they are protecting an important family heirloom. Yet even with professional preservation, no textile lasts forever. 

Fabrics can yellow. Delicate lace can weaken. Beading can loosen. Storage conditions, humidity, temperature fluctuations, and even time itself can gradually alter the dress. And if a flood, fire, accident, or unexpected move damages the gown, it may be impossible to replace. 

The reality is that while the dress is precious, the memories connected to it are even more valuable. 

The reality is that while the dress is precious, the memories connected to it are even more valuable. 

Who helped you choose it? What did it feel like to put it on that morning? What stories unfolded during the ceremony and reception? What did your parents, grandparents, siblings, and friends say about the day? 

Those memories are often far more vulnerable than the dress itself. 

Beyond Physical Preservation. Preserve the Story 

While many families focus on preserving the physical garment, fewer take steps to preserve the stories that make the dress meaningful. 

Imagine future generations opening a wedding dress box decades from now. Without context, they may admire the craftsmanship or laugh at the fashion trends. But what if they could also hear the story behind it? 

What if they knew: 

  • Why this dress was chosen over all the others?
  • Who accompanied the bride during dress shopping?
  • What family traditions were woven into the wedding day?
  • Which photos captured the happiest moments?
  • What happened before, during, and after the ceremony? 

These are the details that transform an old dress into a family treasure. 

Artifcts for the Win! 

This is where Artifcts comes in. Rather than relying solely on the physical dress to carry your memories forward, you can create an Artifct that captures the entire story behind it. 

Upload photos from the wedding day. Add video snippets. Record personal reflections. Include stories from family members. Document the history of the dress itself, whether it was purchased new, altered from a family gown, or passed down through generations. 

 

The wedding dress becomes the starting point for preserving something much larger: the memories, emotions, and family connections that surround one of the most important days of your life. 

An Artifct ensures that even if the dress fades, becomes damaged, or is eventually passed along, donated, repurposed, or no longer exists, the story remains intact. 

A Legacy That Lasts 

Wedding dresses are often stored away with the hope that someone, someday, will appreciate them. But the true legacy isn't the dress itself; rather, it's the story of the person (or people) who wore it, danced in it, and built a life together after the wedding day ended. 

The next generation may or may not treasure the gown. They may enjoy trying it on for a memorable reveal. Or they may decide it's not for them at all. Either way, the memories shouldn't depend on the survival of a piece of fabric. 

Artifct your wedding dress today. Capture the photos, preserve the stories, and share the memories with family members now and for generations to come. A wedding dress may not last forever, but with Artifcts, the story behind it can. 

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Bring Your Family Tree to Life With Our Tips

You know the expression, "If a tree falls in the woods and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?" Well, we wonder, if you connect all the dots of your family history and no one knows about it, did it happen? 

Today's ARTIcles story is all about how we can share our family history so that the content and the message, aka stories, are actually received. To set the stage, we're sharing the inspiration for this article, a message from a woman we'll call Susan, who is a hobbyist genealogist, and who we think is not alone in her frustration. She reached out to us via Facebook Messenger back in March with a humourous headline: "True Story: My Family Refuses to Look at My Family Tree."

Here's a rough summary of what Susan had to say about her frustrations in trying to share family history with her relatives:

“My parents and siblings ask me for historical details about our family all the time.  

  • When was that again that they came over from France? And what part of France was it?  
  • Do you have a photo of Great Grandpa {last name}?  
  • Did we have any {bank robbers, poets, craftsmen, ... } in the family? 
  • Is the family burial plot in {city} the only family plot? 
  • Did anyone in our family serve in {name of war}? 

And I have come to realize I have no great way of sharing my findings with my family because they refuse to create accounts and sign into any of the genealogy software systems I use.

I’m in my late 50s and many of my siblings and in-laws are a lot older than me, so maybe technology is a factor. But I think it’s more that they simply want the answer, not what they see as the gory black and white details we genealogists love.

That said, even with the younger ones, the nieces and nephews, the second I flash a family tree or mention “Your great grandpa on your mother’s side… ,” they zone out.

That means I usually end up sending information by text message and email. But then they lose that quickly and it doesn’t get shared with everyone, so I have to repeat this work over and over again. It takes the joy out of it.

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Better Options than Text, Email, or Intimidating Websites to Share Family History 

There are so many options available to help you share your family history discoveries, all those dots you’ve connected, black and white facts found, that will save your sanity and keep your family better connected with their history now and long into the future.  

Stick with links.* Share website links to directly relevant pieces of a family tree, photos, or documents that you might have in MyHeritage, Ancestry, FamilySearch or the like to prioritize your time and sanity. Like Susan, this is where you are comfortable operating. If they are truly interested, they can follow the simple steps to create an account. And there is usually a free option for them to do so. If that’s not the case, tell them the price and/or tell them how to sign up at a discount if you know there is a free trial period, a discount code available, or a sale coming up. Since you so kindly sent them a link, they won't have to dig - you'll guide them to exactly where the answer awaits.

Grant access to your cloud storage.* If you keep your research in a cloud-based system (like Google Drive, DropBox, Box etc.), give family members permission to view specific folders or bits of information that answer their questions, such as photos, documents, and maps. This simple approach is still better than losing things in email or text.

And please plan for the transfer of your digital genealogy assets upon death in your estate plan so all these family history treasures can be passed on to the next generation. 

* Remember that anyone can share a link but granting permission to access what that link leads to may require another step. So, with either of these first two options you may get others coming to you to request access to the same information because someone gave them the link. 

Scan the photo or document, and Artifct That! There are many great app- and desktop-based options out there to scan a picture or document that you as the family keeper may be holding onto, such as the “Notes” app on many phones or the Photomyne subscription app. If you’d like assistance digitizing media, you can hire a professional photo manager, pop into a local shop that specializes in digitization and/or archival preservation, or check local libraries and genealogy centers for digitization resources, like the Vivid-Pix scan stations.

Scan those photos and docs and then do not let them get lost in text messages or 100s of photos back in a folder.

Artifct in the moment where you can then record the story and details and share with your loved ones before moving on to the next piece of the puzzle. But share where? You can ...

... Create Artifcts Circles. You can create as many Artifcts Circles, with as many people in them, as you like, for free. Think of circles like chat groups – anyone who accepts your invite can then share their Artifcts to the circle, too. You can even name another admin to add/remove people, too. People you invite need only to create a free Artifcts account to accept your Circle invitation and create and share up to five free Artifcts with the Circle, too!  

      • Sharing your stories and discoveries with Circle members means you are no longer the single point of failure or truth. Everyone will have access anytime, anywhere. But again, make sure in you've listed your primary and secondary legacy contacts in your Artifcts account settings so your Artifcts can live on. 
      • And you can crowdsource with Artifcts Circles, too. Have a gap you’re trying to fill in the tree? Wishing you had more family heirlooms, photos, or documents to back up your research? When people and estates are dispersed through time, it’s easy to forget who has what that may help to fill those gaps.  
      • Ask family to Artifct and share with the Circle. Yes, it may be more family lore than history or genealogy, but the lore is often equally as valuable to any facts you have collected. Lore is the character and color of the family history that has survived and can provide clues along your way – Artifct that! Get step-by-step details and inspiration for family circles here >

Have Fun Preserving and Swapping Stories

Next time you and your family get together, pick a theme in advance, and ask everyone to contribute to an Artifcts Circle.  

Among our favorites:  

  • Oldest family photo 
  • Favorite heirloom 
  • Secret/not-so-secret family recipe

Suggest everyone use the same tag for instant sorting of the Artifcts in the Circle to see just those created for this activity, e.g. #GreatGram, #Reunion2026, or #FavoriteRecipes.

 

Using a custom tag such as #GreatGram makes sorting and sharing her treasures as easy as 1-2-3!

What Truly Matters

When you think about it, a family tree is really just the beginning. The real magic happens when you add the stories behind the names — the recipes everyone still argues about, the mystery photos no one can identify, the “remember when…” moments that somehow get funnier every year, and yes, even Great Uncle Bob’s questionable fashion choices.

So don’t aim for “perfect” family history. Aim for living history. Share the voice notes, save the handwritten cards, digitize the holiday snapshots, and ask one more question at the next family gathering. Every little memory adds another branch, leaf, or colorful twist to your family story.

And who knows? One day, future generations may look back and laugh lovingly at our hairstyles, social media posts, and obsession with taking pictures of dinner.

That’s the beauty of preserving family history: it keeps growing, evolving, and surprising us — one story at a time.

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Goodbye School Year, Hello Storage Crisis

The last school bell rings, backpacks explode by the front door, and suddenly your house is overflowing with kid “stuff.” Crumpled artwork. Half-used notebooks. Science fair boards. Recorder instruments. Team shirts. Yearbooks. Awards. Mystery cords. And somehow…47 pencils. 

The end of the school year has a way of turning kitchens, mudrooms, and dining tables into temporary museums of childhood. Some of it is practical. Some of it is sentimental. And some of it leaves you staring into a pile wondering, “Wait, why did we save this again?” 

If that sounds familiar, you are not alone. At Artifcts, we often say it’s not about the object—it’s about the meaning behind it. The tricky part with school keepsakes is that they arrive in waves, year after year, often faster than we can process them. One day your child proudly hands you a macaroni self-portrait, and the next thing you know you have six overflowing bins labeled “school memories.” 

The good news? You do not need to keep everything to preserve what matters most.  

What To Do with All That School Stuff 

School memorabilia falls into the same category as sports memorabilia, baby items, and family keepsakes: emotionally important, physically bulky, and surprisingly difficult to sort through. The goal is not perfection. The goal is to curate thoughtfully, so the memories survive without your closets disappearing in the process. 

Here are a few ways to tackle the end-of-school-year avalanche. 

Start with the “Greatest Hits.” Not every worksheet deserves permanent storage. But certain items instantly bring back a story, milestone, or stage of childhood. 

Keep an eye out for: 

  • Firsts (first handwriting sample, first school photo, first big project)
  • Personal favorites chosen by your child
  • Artwork that reflects personality or growth
  • Awards or achievements tied to meaningful moments
  • Notes from teachers or classmates
  • Items connected to funny family stories 

Think of yourself less as a storage manager and more as a curator of your child’s story. 

Think of yourself less as a storage manager and more as a curator of your child’s story. 

One meaningful drawing with context often matters more than 200 anonymous papers in a plastic bin.  

Create a “School Year Capsule” 

Instead of endlessly adding to random piles, create a simple system: 

  • One bin per child
  • One folder per school year
  • One digital album for photos and scans
  • One Artifct for especially meaningful items 

This naturally creates boundaries. When the folder fills up, it becomes easier to decide what truly matters most. 

Some families even involve kids in the process by asking: 

  • What are your top 5 favorites from this year?
  • Which project are you most proud of?
  • What would future-you want to remember? 

You might be surprised by what they choose. 

 

 
 
 
 

Artifct Before You Let It Go 

Some school items are impossible to keep forever. Poster boards bend. Paint flakes. Glitter somehow multiplies. And eventually, even the most sentimental parents hit a storage limit. 

Before tossing or donating something meaningful: 

  • Take photos
  • Record a quick story or memory on the Artifcts App
  • Add context: who, what, when, where, and why
  • Include your child’s own words if possible 

That is where Artifcts can help transform clutter into preserved memories. A photo of a papier-mâché volcano becomes far more meaningful when paired with the story about staying up until midnight adding lava because “it needed to erupt properly.” 

Without the story, future generations may just see cardboard and glue.  

Tackle the Digital School Clutter Too 

School “stuff” is no longer just physical. Today’s parents also accumulate: 

  • Thousands of school photos
  • Classroom app downloads
  • Concert videos
  • Screenshots from teacher messages
  • PDFs of report cards and projects 

And unlike paper clutter, digital clutter quietly expands without anyone noticing. 

 

 
 
 
 

One helpful strategy: dedicate 15 minutes each week to sorting school-related photos and files. Save the meaningful ones, delete duplicates, and Artifct the memories that deserve a lasting story.  

What About the Stuff Kids Don’t Want? 

Eventually, many kids outgrow their attachment to trophies, certificates, uniforms, and projects. Parents are often the ones holding on longest. 

Online decluttering communities are full of parents asking the same question: “Will they regret letting this go someday?” The answer is usually less about the object itself and more about whether the memory survives.  

If an item no longer holds meaning: 

  • Donate usable school supplies
  • Pass along gently used backpacks and lunch boxes
  • Recycle old papers and broken projects
  • Repurpose trophies or awards creatively
  • Save only representative examples instead of entire collections 

You are not erasing childhood by letting go of excess stuff. You are making room for the memories that matter most. 

Preserve the Story, Not the Pile 

Every school year tells a story of growth: changing handwriting, evolving interests, new friendships, proud moments, disappointments, creativity, resilience, and discovery. 

The challenge is not whether those memories matter. Of course they do. The challenge is making sure the meaning survives longer than the clutter. 

Because years from now, your child probably will not remember every worksheet or participation ribbon. But they may cherish the story behind the ceramic pizza slice they made in first grade or the essay they wrote about becoming a veterinarian. 

And that story? That is worth keeping. 

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